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| Note From Claudine |
A few years back I had a friend who on the surface seemed to really care about me and my welfare. As time moved on and I became more familiar with her way of functioning in the world, I noticed she would only befriend people she thought were weak and easily manipulated. Before long the friendship ended because her way of being a friend was emotionally abusive and inauthentic. My lesson from this encounter helped me to realize this was a low period in my life and I attracted that similar vibration. I did not have proper boundaries in place and she felt she could control my choices and that she knew the best answers for my life. She concluded she needed to play god in my life. In other words she knew how to manage my affairs better than I did.
In a healthy relationship or friendship the focus is on one's own life, being supportive and being the best person possible. In a conversation with my daughter, I am remind that individual act as our mirror and allow us to see our reflection. People in our lives are here to teach us and sometimes they teach us how not to behave.
Our show on October, 29th explores the detriments of emotional blackmail and how to reclaim one's power. Tune in on Thursdays at 2pm EST /11am PST to listen to what our experts have to share. Otherwise visit the archives anytime at www.modavox.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1481 |
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| Feature Article: Emotional Blackmail |
The phrase “emotional blackmail” sounds ominous, and with good reason. Sometimes, the ones who claim to love us the most spend a lot of time pushing our buttons and making us feel guilty for reacting. When this happens, we need to dig deep, and assert our needs and our independence.
Whether you experience the dark phenomenon of emotional blackmail with a lover, a friend or family member, or even a work colleague, you must fight back with coping strategies that allow you to feel valued and heard. Keeping silent will only continue the vicious circle of blame, anger, and guilt.
Getting out from under emotional blackmail will be easy when you develop a stronger sense of self. You won’t need validation and acceptance from those who mistreat you when your core is strong and your spirit is nourished from within. Taking the time to practice healing modalities that foster self-love and a better sense of whom you are will remove some of the pressure that emotional blackmail produces.
Dealing with relationships will be simpler when you achieve balance in your life. Yoga, meditation, mantras, proper diet and exercise, and creative hobbies all help to build up the self. The opinions of other people will be put into proper perspective when you practice self-care on a daily basis. Taking care of yourself is the opposite of selfishness: it actually makes it easier to do things for other people, and give them the best of your heart and mind.
Consider testing out the healing modalities and suggestions you find here, and you’ll come out stronger, saner, and more in control of your own life. Then, when emotional blackmail rears its ugly head, you’ll be stable enough to see it for what it is, and strong enough to talk it out and make it stop. Until you love yourself, you may find yourself at the mercy of emotional blackmail. Depression, overeating, and poor se lf-care can result from repressing the effects of your emotions. Take charge of your own destiny and you’ll change your own energy…forever…
WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEBSITE? You can, as long as you include the complete text below with it: by Claudine Struck, "The Mind, Body, Spirit"- Expert and Author of "How to Stay Sane When Life Isn't." If you are ready to make you a priority, cultivate healthy relationships and live a more sane, happier life then this inspirational and unique approach to integrating mind, body spirit is for you. Get free tips now at www.staysanenow.com |
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Next Radio Show:
Thursday, October 22nd at 2pm EST
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| Claudine recommends: |
www.susanforward.com
Susan Forward, Ph.D. is one of the nation's leading psychotherapist, a best selling author and highly sought after lecturer, talkshow guest and media personality. Her landmark book, Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them, kept her at the top of the major bestseller lists for 44 consecutive weeks. Never one to rest on her laurels, Susan's follow-up publication, Toxic Parents, returned her to #1 on the New York Times Bestseller List. She has also written Betrayal of Innocence, Obsessive Love, Money Demons, Emotional Blackmail and When Your Lover is a Liar.
Susan's dynamic speaking style and unrivaled expertise in all aspects of relationship counseling makes her a favorite on the lecture circuit as well as wit h radio and television talkshows like Oprah, The View, Larry King and countless others. In fact, her winning personality and outstanding communication skills landed her a six year run on her own daily nationally syndicated call-in show on ABC Talkradio.
www.innerbonding.com
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a noted public speaker, best-selling author, workshop leader, chaplain, relationship expert, and Inner Bonding facilitator. She has counseled individuals and couples, and led groups, classes, and workshops since1970. She is the author and co-author of eight books, including the best-selling Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?, (Over 1 million sold) Healing Your Aloneness, Inner Bonding, and Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? She is the co-creator of the transformational Inner Bonding® process. Her books have been translated into 12 language s. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone Sessions Available |
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